Are You Happy?
Another long-time friend came to visit Monday. He and Connie and I worked for the same company about 30 years ago, and we've stayed in touch. He taught Connie almost everything she knows about bookkeeping. It was good to see him again.
Between his business, his friends, his kids and grandkids, he doesn't have a lot of free time. He told us about going on a date that he enjoyed, and telling his date that he'd like to see her again. In a month or two. I guess that didn't go over well. Go figure.
We had lunch on the deck at the Crossings restaurant, overlooking the Deschutes River. Our server, a lovely Romanian girl, was very attentive, and the meal was delicious. One of my grandparents was Romanian. I wonder if we're related? naw...
At one point, Connie got up to use the restroom, and our friend took that opportunity when she was away from the table to ask her if she was happy and if I was treating her well. When Connie told me about this after he'd left, my first thought was, "That bastard!" Did he think so little of me that he had to ask if I was treating her well? Nice to know that people look out for her well-being though. Was I wrong to be a bit peeved?
And if you were wondering what her reply was, rest assured. She said she was happy and I was treating her well. Were you wondering? 
Posted by Dave Blog Tag: Chatter
Posted 8/29/2007 11:20:00 PM
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6 Comments:
Sounds to me like he was either making conversation, or he was hitting on her. One of those.
He left the table to catch her alone, so I don't think it's the former. hmmmm....
Let's see, he's single and looking and in the presence of a well-liked, pretty friend. I think he wanted to find out if there was any chance that he could have her. I wouldn't take it as an insult to you. He just wanted to see if he had a chance with her.
I don't know if he was hitting on Connie or not, but I've always considered it reprehensible to interfere in someone's marriage for personal gain. If someone is unhappy in a marriage, then you suggest counseling or separation, but never with the intent of taking advantage of it. In my book, that's an act of war.
For the record, I'm assuming he was simply concerned for her welfare. He's a nice guy.
It sounds to me as if your long-time friend is more comfortable speaking with Connie on a personal level than he is with you.
Overall, it also seems as if he is closer to Connie, especially if he was once her bookkeeping mentor.
From an emotional point of view, (which I know all too well), "That bastard!" was an overreaction, which is unlike you, BTW.
It wasn't that he thought "so little" of you. It's that he cares "that much" about Connie and her well-being.
Personally, I don't think that someone asks the questions that he did and expects a negative response. It actually gives an opportunity for Connie, in this case, to give a glowing reply of her happiness and of her marriage.
It's likely that he knows Connie well enough to be aware that she wouldn't stay in an unhappy marriage where she wasn't being treated well.
I doubt that he intended the question to be an insult to you. He was being a friend to Connie, which is the reason that he waited to speak with her alone. It had "very little" to do with you.
IMHO
Was she bruised at the time or something? Not an inappropriate question, just awkwardly executed. Normal first impulse. But if he didn't have time for a second date with chick A, he wouldn't have time to steal your woman, either, as that takes even more time than the usual courting ;)
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